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Blogging Goals: To Copy the Wife of an Ex-boy-friend (ish type of guy)


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Motivation arises from all sorts of places. Seven years ago, this guy and I never officially dated in my mind (so he was a friend who was a boy, and I thought we had lots of potential but he didn’t initiate beyond friendship), and I still don’t know what it was in his mind. After being friends for ten months, it still hadn’t gotten clear, so I just ended the friendship without a discussion. (Now I know that is not the way to do things, but I was learning, okay?)

I ran into him a couple times (awkward, but we both saw that we were okay), and then heard that he had gotten married. I Facebook-stalked his new wife and found out she was a writer, so I read her blog a few times. And then a few more times…

Then, a few years later, when I decided to start a blog. I read her blog again… I started a blog on the same platform, and even followed her. Then she left that blog platform to just start her own official blog. Right before she left the platform I was on, I saw that she had 285 followers. For some reason, those 285 followers stuck in my mind. I wanted to reach 285 followers with my blog; maybe I would be a real writer than. Maybe a great guy would date me then…

I didn’t pay attention to follows the first nine months of my blog. I just posted every two weeks. Most of my readers were friends from Facebook. Then a year ago, I started noticing these followers, and I started interacting in this whole blog culture we have here on this blog platform, and getting to know my followers who commented and following and commenting on other writer’s blogs.

Last year it became my goal to get 285 followers, just like this ex-boy-friend’s wife had before she launched the bigger and better blog. This wasn’t the reason why I followed other blogs, but it gave me a number to reach toward.

I’ll admit, seeing this lady’s blog gave me mixed emotions. I got to hear more how she met her husband (and I also awkwardly met them at a party I crashed with a friend a few years ago. I have since learned not to crash parties. 😉 ). She inspires me because she is a writer with many more publications than I. She frustrates me because she has done so much and is just a little older than I am. She points me toward grace…and her blog motivated me to go farther with my blog.

Today I hit the 285 followers mark.

(How did I go from maybe 50 followers last spring to 285 now? I started reading other peoples’ blogs and commenting on what they wrote. I kept posting interesting pieces of writing, photos, recipes, and quotes. I followed lots of other people’s blogs. What blogs do you recommend I follow?)

I feel more like a writer now (my job is tutoring people in writing and I’m just writing more).

I’m dating a wonderful guy. Seeing the number 285 made me ponder…

Today I looked at the ex-boy-friend’s wife’s blog and was impressed. I don’t know how many followers she has now, but I don’t need to know. I just can be thankful for her. She is sort of an un-knowing mentor. I don’t think I need to let her know because my connection with her husband would just make it, yes, you know, awkward! So I can completely let her (and him) go. I’ve reached my goal. I could make another one, or I might just be thankful for those people who want to follow me and read my work.

Thank you ex-boy-friend’s wife for being a helpful example of a writer, and thank you readers and followers for stopping by! I am thankful for you all.


By M. H. Campbell

Copyright 2015


Author: mary.campbell.schuh

Hello Friends, A curious, kind, practical, and energetic writer, wife, mother, and teacher is one way to describe me. I enjoy thinking about transitions--in schools, churches, families, relationships, and even countries. I'm passionate about learning, and I love working with people. Stop by often to see which kind of transition I'm thinking about, and I would appreciate hearing your thoughts. Peace! ~Mary Hope

6 thoughts on “Blogging Goals: To Copy the Wife of an Ex-boy-friend (ish type of guy)

  1. Oh how your words resonated with me! I haven’t been in exactly the same situation….but quite similar. I’m glad you reached your goal of 285 followers and now feel more at peace about letting her and him go and that now you feel grateful to them.
    At times, I compare myself to others (either their physical traits or their skills/experiences) and it’s a vicious cycle for me sometimes…I tend to focus on the things other people have and what I feel I lack. In the end, I come to find out that they envied me for a certain characteristic that I have and they wanted…In the end, it was better if I just realized that I am enough…
    I’m so glad that I found your blog and I’m honored to be one of those 285…May you find continued joy and strength in every blog post you write…We’ll be here to read ya!


  2. I clicked the “Follow” button before I saw your comment, so you should be back to 285. Fun read!


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