Last week I had a couple crying sessions partly because the baby has started teething and is screaming more and partly I got anxious as I got close to my birthday. I planned a gathering of a few friends for cake, tea, and talk; the day before I became nervous about how it would be, and I just wanted to have someone else throw the party for me.
Who plans and celebrates a mother’s birthday? Don’t mother’s plan and lead the celebration of the birthdays in her home? Is it okay that she plans her own celebration or should she wait for her husband to do something?Yes, mothers usually head up the party plans in their homes, helped by children as they grow older. Sometimes husbands plan parties, but not usually.
I’m here to release all mothers from that nagging feeling that you cannot plan your own party or cannot ask for someone to help you: be free to celebrate yourself!
I planned most of my party, but I asked my husband to bake me a German chocolate cake, and he did!! I put the chocolate hearts on top, but he did most of the baking. Only a handful of friends could make it, but the five friends that came melded well together and there was more than enough food. The cake, piled with coconut pecan frosting, was better than I remembered. I had some encouraging talks with friends I hadn’t seen for a while.
Having freedom to plan a gathering that brings you joy and having help putting it on is what every Mother deserves. I’m excited to keep on planning parties for my son and my husband, but this first party after becoming a mother is setting a positive precedent for the future: Mamas should have parties and celebrations too!!
This birthday season was my best yet (from funfetti cake to baby snuggles and pink flowers), and I’m glad to be learning this lesson now. ☺️
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