As a child, when my Mom was happy, I knew it—her face relaxed, she smiled, and she talked a lot more; I could relax then. When she was perturbed, I got nervous and scared. At breakfast, I remember looking at my Mom’s face to see how she was doing that day.
A mother at peace is like a bright lighthouse shining across the waves. What makes mothers happy? Is there a secret to staying peaceful? I don’t think there’s just one secret, there’s actually a bunch of habits mothers can do to grow peace in their hearts, which comes out of their eyes, into their children, and everyone who walks by.
A book that has helped me grow in peace and confidence as a Mom is The 10 Habits of Happy Mothers: Reclaiming Our Passion, Purpose, and Sanity by Dr. Meg Meeker. Dr. Meeker, as a pediatrician, has met hundreds of moms and has distilled traits she has seen in happy mothers.
The habits that stood out the most to me include: Maintain Key Friendships, Value and Practice Faith, Find Ways to Live Simply, and Let Go of Fear. Dr. Meeker has seen so many fearful moms—feeling isolated, alone, thinking they are not good enough, and she shares stories along with truth about each of these topics and more to inspire the mothers who are reading.
The “maintaining key friendships” chapter confirmed what I had felt going into motherhood: I need to intentionally make friends with other moms. I shouldn’t just stay home; I need community with other women! Last fall, even before I had given birth to my son, I started going to moms groups at my church and developing those friendships. I knew that after the baby came, I would be more tired and maybe unsure about going, so I did it while I was still rested. It resulted in learning helpful mothering advice from lectures, getting signed up to receive meals after the baby was born, and encouragement. Large churches tend to have Moms groups, but there are organizations, such as MOPS (Mothers of Pre-schoolers), that have gatherings.
Dr. Meeker encourages mothers to value and practice their faith because their children see it and learn from them. Women can draw so much strength from having faith in God. She writes, “Real faith, however, is about opening ourselves to receive love and goodness from God, not simply adhering to a large list of rules” ( The 10 Habits of Happy Mothers: Reclaiming Our Passion, Purpose, and Sanity 54). A great part about this book is that toward the end of each chapter, she give us steps on how to put that habit into practice.
I enjoyed the stories she weaves throughout each chapter; she is a mother, so she has felt these things as well as seen it show up in the women she interacts with every day. She is so encouraging—that we are doing better than we think we are! We don’t need lots of stuff to be a great mother—it is more comes from how our attitudes, thoughts, and words are. She gives helpful tools that can help mothers be the best they can be, and be happy along the way! Check out this book:
Check out Dr. Meeker’s website and podcast as well. I love cooking and listening to her advice about parenting and motherhood. Her website is:
Moms out there– you are going to make it! This book encouraged me, so check it out.
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