Trees of Transition

Planting seeds of hope throughout our world through sharing photography and thoughts on teaching, cooking, and life transitions.


Leave a comment

A Teacher’s View of the Book: The Strong-Willed Child

img_9443Strong-willed children grow into strong-willed adults who can either create beauty and lead others to greatness or let their strong spirit hurt and squash those around them. The beginning of the road to greatness or ruin lies with the choices the parents make in teaching the child how to use that strong will.

My parents had to stand up to me many times because I’m one of those strong-willed people. I’ve gotten a taste of what they went through during my years as a teacher, especially a year and a half ago. I had one especially strong-willed student who was leading the whole class toward being rebellious. With God’s help and courage, I took him on, and he eventually left the school. I couldn’t change that student, but I could let him receive the consequences for his behavior.

The New Strong-Willed Child

Receiving appropriate consequences for behavior is how strong-willed children learn, according to Dr. James Dobson in The New Strong-Willed Child. From my personal experience (I hadn’t learned how to submit well to female authority (I was fine with male, but always wanted to buck females) until I got fired a few years back, so I had to learn the hard way) and from teaching tough, inner-city students, I see that it takes persistence and a ferocious will to keep standing up to a child who just wants what he or she wants and always is pushing for that.

Reading The New Strong-Willed Child gave me so much encouragement about how I handled my classroom: I stood up to those children because they wanted to see if I would let them get away with disrespect, cheating, and laziness. Dr. Dobson tells many stories of children who want to see if they can get around what their parents were asking them to do, and I was surprised by how much ENCOURAGMENT came through the book.

Dr. Dobson draws from being a classroom teacher, a child psychologist, and a parent of a strong-willed child himself to share solutions and advice mixed with much care. He does not want to see parents bewildered by their children, and he knows that parents CAN parent strong-willed children well.

A strong-willed child makes the parents (or teacher) look bad by not being able to control the child. If the parent had a compliant child, the parents would look normal and like great parents. The strong-willed child gives parents a test of their leadership, their authority, and has so much energy to keep on doing it. These children like to take on the authority figure to see if they can break the adult and get what they want. Dr. Dobson encourages parents to just keep on standing up to these children, molding them, teaching them to listen to authority. It takes so much energy to stand up to a little one who is pushing the limits every day, but the child will learn if the parent is consistent.

Reading The New Strong-Willed Childmade me thankful that I held strong when teaching and that my parents held strong with me. It is exhausting, but worth it—the children learn that they must listen to you. And strong-willed children become amazing strong-willed adults who change the world.

This book is worth reading. Check it out: 🙂


The New Strong-Willed Child

Peace!

~Mary Hope

P.S. Thank you for stopping by! I insert affiliate links, such as from  Amazon, into my posts to share interesting books and products. If you buy something or start a registry, I receive income (at no extra cost to you!), for which I am thankful. So…..

— Use this link to shop on  Amazon

–shop at my Etsy photo card/notecard/art shop: Trees of Transition Art & Design

–keep on reading this blog.

Thank you again, and peace to you and your family!

~Mary Hope

Advertisements


Leave a comment

Is Motherhood a Let Down?

Is having a baby a let down in an adult’s life? Some people may think that staying home to take care of a child might be a let down compared to a fast-paced career… and thinking from this perspective sure made a hilarious series that is currently on Netflix!

The Let Down is a seven episode series made by Netflix to highlight common struggles that new parents have, such as sleep deprivation, communication problems with those close to you, and feeling lost among all the newness. Continue reading


Leave a comment

You Are Wanted — Song Review

20140831-184838-67718730.jpg

You can hear the confidence in her voice when someone sings what she believes about herself, and in a song I heard recently, the singer does just that. “Wanted” by Dara Maclean reminds you of the truth: You are wanted. Even if you don’t have a Valentine to take you out for Valentine’s Day, or if you feel like people just put up you, there IS someone who wants you.

In this song, Dara sings the words with such confidence and authority that it helps you believe the truth: You are wanted! The music throbs along with her strong, vigorous vocals, and it sticks in your head. It’s a fine song to blast in your car and dance to.

Let the truth soak into you: