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A Teacher’s View of the Book: The Strong-Willed Child

img_9443Strong-willed children grow into strong-willed adults who can either create beauty and lead others to greatness or let their strong spirit hurt and squash those around them. The beginning of the road to greatness or ruin lies with the choices the parents make in teaching the child how to use that strong will.

My parents had to stand up to me many times because I’m one of those strong-willed people. I’ve gotten a taste of what they went through during my years as a teacher, especially a year and a half ago. I had one especially strong-willed student who was leading the whole class toward being rebellious. With God’s help and courage, I took him on, and he eventually left the school. I couldn’t change that student, but I could let him receive the consequences for his behavior.

The New Strong-Willed Child

Receiving appropriate consequences for behavior is how strong-willed children learn, according to Dr. James Dobson in The New Strong-Willed Child. From my personal experience (I hadn’t learned how to submit well to female authority (I was fine with male, but always wanted to buck females) until I got fired a few years back, so I had to learn the hard way) and from teaching tough, inner-city students, I see that it takes persistence and a ferocious will to keep standing up to a child who just wants what he or she wants and always is pushing for that.

Reading The New Strong-Willed Child gave me so much encouragement about how I handled my classroom: I stood up to those children because they wanted to see if I would let them get away with disrespect, cheating, and laziness. Dr. Dobson tells many stories of children who want to see if they can get around what their parents were asking them to do, and I was surprised by how much ENCOURAGMENT came through the book.

Dr. Dobson draws from being a classroom teacher, a child psychologist, and a parent of a strong-willed child himself to share solutions and advice mixed with much care. He does not want to see parents bewildered by their children, and he knows that parents CAN parent strong-willed children well.

A strong-willed child makes the parents (or teacher) look bad by not being able to control the child. If the parent had a compliant child, the parents would look normal and like great parents. The strong-willed child gives parents a test of their leadership, their authority, and has so much energy to keep on doing it. These children like to take on the authority figure to see if they can break the adult and get what they want. Dr. Dobson encourages parents to just keep on standing up to these children, molding them, teaching them to listen to authority. It takes so much energy to stand up to a little one who is pushing the limits every day, but the child will learn if the parent is consistent.

Reading The New Strong-Willed Childmade me thankful that I held strong when teaching and that my parents held strong with me. It is exhausting, but worth it—the children learn that they must listen to you. And strong-willed children become amazing strong-willed adults who change the world.

This book is worth reading. Check it out: 🙂


The New Strong-Willed Child

Peace!

~Mary Hope

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~Mary Hope

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How Becoming Pregnant Helped Me Become a More Calm Teacher

Junior high students have a reputation of showing disrespect and being hard to handle, and many adults don’t want to work with them. I started working the junior high students accidentally in a way because my college professors thought I couldn’t handle high school students, so when they placed me for practicums and student teaching they put me with junior high students!

I had positive experiences with junior high students throughout my teacher training — I saw they are funny, awkward and need encouragement just like the rest of us. One student made me cupcakes when I finished student teaching!

Jump ahead to last year; after I started being the lead teacher, I learned how vicious and mean junior high students can be. It hurt to have them not like me at times and show it in their actions and words; those actions made me more anxious about work. I also wanted to do well at my job, so that I could come back the next year if possible.

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Getting Your Creative Juices Flowing //// Orange Trees

 

Especially in the culture United States, it seems that if an artist would want to produce more paintings or poems, she would speed up and work faster. In reality, the creative process needs space, like making bread needs honey with the yeast and time to have the bread rise, so creativity needs air to breathe and grow. Continue reading


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Full Circle: Seeing Students from Over the Years

“Do you remember me? You used to teach at Hope, right? Your sister-in-law came and spoke to us…” The high school senior smiled at me as she paused while I went back a couple of years in my brain to remember her face, and I did. She used to be a bubbly freshman when I helped lead the girl’s camp and taught for a short stint at the private school in Chicago that she attends; now she stood next to her boyfriend at the carnival on the south side that the last school I taught at has every summer. Seeing her reminded me that I am glad I tried teaching at that school…I did influence a few students…

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Tips on Teaching at a Catholic or Private School (You are entering a new culture…)

After student teaching at a public school, I found I fit better into teaching at private schools, so over the last seven years I have worked at five different private schools; two Catholic schools and three private Christian schools — one international, one urban, and one suburban. Private schools have a different culture than public school that that takes time to learn.

Have you started teaching at a private school? Want some tips on how to transition even more strongly into that school’s culture? Here you go:

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My First Time in Decades Without School on the Horizon: Transitioning Out of the School Calendar

The past two weeks I had more melt-downs than usual (Yes, I am 29-weeks pregnant and had to take two gestational diabetes tests to prove I’m NOT diabetic—and thank God, I am not); however, part of this has been from a grieving process of graduating from the school system without plans to return to it on the horizon. Ten years ago I graduated from undergraduate college, but I was planning on going to graduate school within the year. Today I realized that some of this sadness is coming from seeing many “Back to School” things here in the United States and not being part of it after either being a student or a teacher for the last 30 years.

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School is Out! Happy First Day of Summer

Releasing my students into summer happened a couple of weeks ago (huzzah!). Seeing the room without 34 desks, chairs, and students made it feel huge. On my last day at school, I took time to just sit and my desk and write out that list of suggested books for the summer (see: Young Adult Fiction to Read This Summer)

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