Trees of Transition

Planting seeds of hope throughout our world through sharing photography and thoughts on teaching, cooking, and life transitions.


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Remembering Aunty Tricia

 

My husband with Aunty Tricia at her son’s wedding.

 

She gave us big hugs, smiled at us as we said, “See you at Christmastime!” and waved as we pulled away to make our flight. I can see her smiling and waving in the sunshine with our other family members. We didn’t know that was the last time we got to see Aunt Tricia in person; she passed away from cancer at the end of August. We are so thankful we got to see her when we went in June to my husband’s 20th high school class reunion! She got to snuggle our son, try to get him to fall asleep, hold him while his Aunty Lindsey made him laugh. Continue reading

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A Teacher’s View of the Book: The Strong-Willed Child

img_9443Strong-willed children grow into strong-willed adults who can either create beauty and lead others to greatness or let their strong spirit hurt and squash those around them. The beginning of the road to greatness or ruin lies with the choices the parents make in teaching the child how to use that strong will.

My parents had to stand up to me many times because I’m one of those strong-willed people. I’ve gotten a taste of what they went through during my years as a teacher, especially a year and a half ago. I had one especially strong-willed student who was leading the whole class toward being rebellious. With God’s help and courage, I took him on, and he eventually left the school. I couldn’t change that student, but I could let him receive the consequences for his behavior.

The New Strong-Willed Child

Receiving appropriate consequences for behavior is how strong-willed children learn, according to Dr. James Dobson in The New Strong-Willed Child. From my personal experience (I hadn’t learned how to submit well to female authority (I was fine with male, but always wanted to buck females) until I got fired a few years back, so I had to learn the hard way) and from teaching tough, inner-city students, I see that it takes persistence and a ferocious will to keep standing up to a child who just wants what he or she wants and always is pushing for that.

Reading The New Strong-Willed Child gave me so much encouragement about how I handled my classroom: I stood up to those children because they wanted to see if I would let them get away with disrespect, cheating, and laziness. Dr. Dobson tells many stories of children who want to see if they can get around what their parents were asking them to do, and I was surprised by how much ENCOURAGMENT came through the book.

Dr. Dobson draws from being a classroom teacher, a child psychologist, and a parent of a strong-willed child himself to share solutions and advice mixed with much care. He does not want to see parents bewildered by their children, and he knows that parents CAN parent strong-willed children well.

A strong-willed child makes the parents (or teacher) look bad by not being able to control the child. If the parent had a compliant child, the parents would look normal and like great parents. The strong-willed child gives parents a test of their leadership, their authority, and has so much energy to keep on doing it. These children like to take on the authority figure to see if they can break the adult and get what they want. Dr. Dobson encourages parents to just keep on standing up to these children, molding them, teaching them to listen to authority. It takes so much energy to stand up to a little one who is pushing the limits every day, but the child will learn if the parent is consistent.

Reading The New Strong-Willed Childmade me thankful that I held strong when teaching and that my parents held strong with me. It is exhausting, but worth it—the children learn that they must listen to you. And strong-willed children become amazing strong-willed adults who change the world.

This book is worth reading. Check it out: 🙂


The New Strong-Willed Child

Peace!

~Mary Hope

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~Mary Hope


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Need Something Lovely to Read?

Need an artsy, relaxing book to read when you have a free minute? My brother (Aaron Campbell of Campby Designs) graphically designed the book, La La Lovely: The Art of Finding Beauty in the Everyday, by Trina McNeilly, and the layout AND the words bring refreshment, hope, beauty to the reader.

Started as a blog, (so that part encourages me greatly that a blog can lead to so much more!), this book tells of her journey of recent years through her parents’ divorce, the loss of a grandmother, and how to look for beauty to show up throughout all of life. The book is like a long version of her lifestyle blog with chapters on interior design, family relationships, and even an art project or two with photographs and fonts that bring it to life.

Her chapters can be read individually, so they are great for when you just have a minute or two to read something. I read most of the book while I was breastfeeding my son or right before bed when I wanted to have something fun (but short) to read.

For example, Trina says, “Trees, I once heard, represent rest. And here, without realizing it, I’ve been neighboring with respite. I can never decide when I like them best. Every year, each season, I try to decide again and again. I judge what the woods wear, as if I’m a regular on Project Runway. Autumn is pushing for first place with all of its colors and crunch. Summer is a shoo-in for second with its wealth of green, stately and regal, emanating a fairy-tale feel…” (page 159-160 of La La Lovely: The Art of Finding Beauty in the Everyday). Her words poetically paint pictures and draw you toward the beauty she wants to share.

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We Sold Our House!! (Good-bye Musings About 1064 Windsor Drive)

This morning my husband called me to say, “Everything is going through,” that means, our house is sold!! The relief that we won’t have to pay a mortgage payment and a rent payment in a couple days is still settling in…

What have we learned from this experience?

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Buttery Dutch Apple Pie 🥧

Things are changing around here…we finally sold our house in Illinois, so that means we can return our borrowed couch to Stephen’s cousin and bring the rest of our furniture back to our apartment! To thank said cousin for letting us use his couch, I whipped up an apple pie for him (and one for us.)

With life whizzing past, it helps to just sit down with a piece of pie and savor the spicy apple-ness. Pie helps transitions become sweeter. Apple pie just brings comfort. Enjoy! Continue reading


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The Transitions of Summer

This has been a summer full of transitions: Moving from Illinois to Minnesota, but still selling a house in Illinois (that should be wrapped up this month), my Dad passing away, traveling almost every weekend for a month and a half…

Taking a bit of time alone throughout this whole time and connecting with loved ones and God has helped me stay (mostly) steady throughout this time!

Oh, and lots of walks…

Here’s some peaceful images that have helped me transition well this summer:

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How DO You Start a Small Business? Book Review of The Business Boutique


Are you not sure how to run a business and desire more guidance before you prepare that first batch of cupcakes or sew that first apron to sell? A book that has been helping me figure out business is Christy Wright’s Business Boutique: A Woman’s Guide for Making Money Doing What She Loves. Christy walks her readers through dreaming, thinking through, and then starting up a business. She encourages you to “Make money doing what you love!”

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